I see what you mean, and that is pretty much the way I had planned to go about it back when we were thinking about adopting. And the reason we chose not to adopt is also a selfish one - we like our lives and don't really want a child.

The reason I started thinking about this and finally made that particular connection to the book I read was that when I was handing out election ballots, I spent some time talking with a woman who was giving out ballots for another party. She had two adopted sons. She told me that she's met people saying stuff like "oh, how fortunate for those children to be given a home in this country, their life will be so much better here". She said that usually made her want to hit the people who said that...